1. Do you wind-down from work?
2. Do you take work home?
3. Do you take work home and not do it? Is it just sitting there, nagging you and pestering you?
4. Do you have boundaries around work?
5. Do you find yourself thinking about work at 2 am?
6. Do you talk yourself out of doing things for yourself, for example exercise, by thinking about all the work you have to do?
7. Would you class yourself as chronically stressed?
8. Are you going to do anything about it?
Here are my answers:
1. Errr… sometimes? Friday - yes. Monday - no.
3. Yes - all the time. I have done it today, I'm not going to do it - I'm tired. It is just THERE.
4. Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
5. It happens. Grrr.
6.Yes - a lot. Although tiredness, need to see kids, CBA all come into play here.
8. Yes I am!
How can we be productive, energised and healthy if we do not give our minds and bodies a rest from work? Well, the answer is we can't. We have 24 hours in a day and 168 hours in a week. You spend on average 7-8 hours a day in bed. You spend 6-9 hours a day at work (this obviously fluctuates). This work involves performing, listening, producing, talking, writing, reading, observing, reflecting, organising (and on and on and on). That leaves 7- 8 hours to travel, cook and eat, do household stuff, spend time with family, shower, prepare the next day, exercise, read, watch TV, go on Facebook, do the shopping, text your sister, join in the WhatsApp chat, read with your children, take the dog for a walk, have a relationship...
However, this is assuming we do not bring work home. If so, add that to the 'leaves 7-8 hours...' list.
No wonder we are exhausted. I'm exhausted writing that list!
I know, I know. Realistically, there are times where the boundary between work and home-life are crossed. I work full time and have two teenage sons. I often pick them up from school and this may mean I have to prepare the next day through a 'split-shift' (although the second shift is always very fretful and irritable and I'd rather be watching Homeland). This is the case for many parents and those with care responsibilities. Knowing what can reasonably be done at 8pm when you've been up since 6am can help. Answering e-mails? Maybe. Searching TES? Probably. Marking a set of year 7 writing assessments that you promised your class to be marked tomorrow? Unlikely without putting your wellbeing out the window and the chance of a good night's sleep.
Do you have a boundary between work and home? Or do you have a cut-off point at home when work is done for the day? If so, do you have a ritual?
Alternatively, do you have no boundaries? How do you manage this?
Please let me know! I'd love to hear from you.